I married a Catholic man. I guess when we got married I was (and still am the unbeliever) and he is the believer.  He has since become very abusive: physically, verbally and mentally. Do you think he is really a believer?


Catholics, by definition are not Christians, for they (the Roman Catholic Church) has a false gospel, which says a person is saved by "doing certain works" (going to Mass, confessions, praying rosaries, Novenas, giving to the poor, helping others, etc.) by which they claim to receive the grace of salvation. But the Bible says one is not saved by "works" but by "faith":

"It is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast." [Ephesians 2:8-9]

The expression of true saving "faith," that is God's Gift, is the ability and willingness to do the following:

1. Repent of their sins (a willingness in their heart to want to turn away from all their known sins).

2. Believe in Jesus Christ--who He claimed to be (God, the only Savior, the only Mediator, the only source of salvation).

3. Submission of their lives to the control and direction of Christ (commands and directions of the Word of God), again a submission of the heart.

When anyone truly does this, then they will indeed be saved.

From what you have stated about your husband, he gives absolutely no evidence of being saved, in fact, has all the attributes of an unsaved person. So what you really have is two unbelievers married.

Here is a good message for you to read:

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