What is the importance of choosing a virgin for a wife? From what I've
read in the Old Testament, this was of paramount importance. If a man found that his bride was not a virgin, and he
"detested her," he could have her put to death.
I think it is more difficult to apply this in this age, because there is no legal recourse if you find that your bride is not a virgin, and you have to be sure beforehand of either (1) if she is a virgin or not, or (2) if you are prepared to accepted her as she is (forgiven). I don't think I have enough faith for #2, and #1 has difficulties of its own. Perhaps #1 is also a matter of faith, and of the leading of God, but I want to know if Christ feels that it is important for me - as a gift - not that I deserve it, but that He could give me greater joy through it.
How are you going to be sure that she is a virgin? Are you
going to ask her prior to marriage? Are you going to expect to see some
evidence on your wedding night? A number of women lose their
virginity (physically) by non-intercourse, maybe vigorous physical exercise, or other
non-sexual ways. Will you always doubt her if you don't have "evidence"?
By the way, what evidence can the man provide the woman on her wedding night
that he is a virgin?
It is not something
to focus on. Focus on living for Christ and praying for the woman He
would want you to have.
So the requirement that a wife must be a virgin on her wedding night may be unrealistic. If we have that requirement then must she also have perfect features, and have never lied, never cussed, never drank, never told a dirty story, never had evil thoughts, etc........?
The most important qualities for a wife: Do they truly love Christ and their husband? That's what really counts.
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