Questioner

My husband has been married a number of times before and has been in and out the church for a number of years.  I asked him to move out because he wasn't contributing his part as being a husband. I was paying all the bills and he was doing whatever he wanted to do with his money. My husband has truly not been honest with me and he has just been very mean to me. Lately he told me that he stop loving me alone time ago. He has a sex addiction problem and that is another part of our marriage. I never caught him cheating or never saw that he's ever been unfaithful. He has never physically abuse me but he is controlling in some areas. I am praying for his salvation and for God to mend our marriage but would I be out of God's will for not allowing him to come back until God says so, because there will be confusion in the house and I know that God is a God of peace. I love my husband with all my soul and I want him to come home but only when he's right with God. Is that wrong of me?

Answer

"Since he hasn't be caught in adultery and is not physically abusing you or other family members, then according to the scriptures, as long as he is willing to live with you then you cannot send him away:

"If a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. The unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife..." [1 Corinthians 7:13-14]

It seems very clear that he is not a believer, thus you are a Christian married to an unbeliever.  The following is an excellent sermon that will help guide you on how to live with him.  As an unbeliever his behavior will be sinful most of the time and some unbelievers will be worse than others, but God sees it all and hears the cry of your heart.  Yes, you should invite him back into the home and marriage.

Salvation [02] How to Win Your Unsaved Spouse. An excellent study of the Word of God that provides hope and encouragement to the mate married to a non-Christian. Suggest reading by Christian couples to help them to better understand and minister to mixed marriages. John MacArthur

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