I am newly married and so have come across the issue of contraception.
Prophylactics, birth control pills, natural family planning, abstinence,
Is contraception at all Biblical?
What an excellent question! It is sad that more Christian
couples don't ask it. I also asked this question years ago and found no one with the
answer. So I looked at the Scriptures and here's what I saw:
2. God wants Christians to have lots of children because
he was seeking "godly offspring"
1. God said, to Adam and Eve, and to Noah's and his sons, (which would
be a command for all generations after them),
"Be fruitful and multiply" and He never rescinded the command.
Therefore I could conclude that God wanted husbands and wives to have
children, and it is implied that they are to be fruitful (having much
fruit--lots of babies)
"Has not the LORD made them one? In flesh and spirit they
are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard
yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your
youth." [Malachi 2:15]
2a. God considers children a blessing from Him (something
that will make us happy!)
"Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from
him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in
one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them."
3. God has the ability to "open and close" the
womb causing conception or not.
"Ephraim's glory will fly away like a bird - no birth, no
pregnancy, no conception." [Hosea 9:11] (God will prevent it)
"The angel of the LORD appeared to her and said, "You are
sterile and childless, but you are going to conceive and have a son."
"Boaz took Ruth and she became his wife. Then he went to her,
and the LORD enabled her to conceive, and she gave birth to a son." [Ruth
"When the LORD saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb:
but Rachel was barren (womb kept closed by God)." [Genesis 29:31]
"Then God remembered Rachel; he listened to her and opened her
womb." [Genesis 30:22]
"But to Hannah he gave a double portion because he loved her,
and the LORD had closed her womb." [1 Samuel 1:5]
So we can easily see, that God is capable of opening and
closing the womb, therefore controlling birth. But now it comes down to
a question can God be trusted to control the number of births, providing just
the right number for the couple?
4. God has commanded that all Christians, to include the Christian couple
to live by faith.
"In the gospel a righteousness from God is
revealed, a righteousness that is by faith from first to last, just as it is
written: 'The righteous will live by faith.'" [Romans 1:17]
"But the man who has doubts is condemned if he eats, because his
eating is not from faith; and everything that does not come from faith is sin."
Let me try to put this together for you.
I believe that Birth Control for a Christian couple is a matter
of faith. Those who have great faith can trust God to provide just the
right number of children, at just the right time. Their God will honor
their faith, and never give a child that is not good for the family, nor
withhold one that would be beneficial. So the couple can simply rely on
the Lord to provide the children and the resources to care for them. And
guess who gets all the glory for the timing of the births? God does.
Now when man decides to make the decision as whether to
have children or not, then there are some problems:
1. The glory for the decision goes to man, not God.
2. The heart is deceitful (at times), even for the
Christian, and our selfishness may prevail. We may think it is not the
"right time" to have a baby because we don't want the responsibility, nor the
restricted life style. It is easy to think selfishly. A woman
could say, "Well I have my career to think of, maybe later." Yet she
forgets the high-calling of motherhood, and God's prescribed role of the
wife/mother, to be "in the home" as a 'helper' to the man.
3. A couple could say, "Well we can't really afford
a child (or another child) at this time." But again, their hearts may
be saying, "we don't want to give up our current lifestyle, our that
planned new car or boat." Yet present financial circumstances are
not a good indicator, for we don't really need more income, until after the
child arrives, and then only a little more each year, and then a lot when they
are teenagers! Yet God promises to meet ALL the needs of Christians,
if--they will "seek His Kingdom and His righteousness."
4. The various forms of man's birth controls seem to
indicate that they are not God-sent:
A. The Rhythm - This method requires abstinence, which is
prohibited in the Bible, except for special times of "prayer" and
then both must be in agreement:
"Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and
for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together
again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of
self-control." [1 Corinthians 7:5] (context is sexual
intercourse in marriage).
B. Withdrawal - God designed that sexual intercourse in
marriage is to be a mutually enjoyable, fulfilling experience, and to
"withdraw" at the critical point in the lovemaking, would seem to
take the pleasure of the moment, that God designed, and replace it with
C. Prophylactics - Disrupts the spontaneity (getting
ready), often robs the man of some of the feelings of intimacy.
D. Birth Control Pill, IUDs - Can and often cause side effects of
cramping, headaches, and even worse: (updated
1/13/03) they can cause an abortion to take
place! Please go to this link to read an article that exposes the
danger of Birth Control Pills causing abortions:
Bottom line, it will depend where the Christian couple's faith
is. If they are of little faith (not a sin, just a point in the faith
growth process), then they would not be sinning to exercise "birth
control" assuming of course they are continually asking for wisdom from
the Holy Spirit and avoid any chance of causing an abortion. Yet those with great faith, can and must trust God, and
enjoy the joy and peace of such a decision, and then share that faith with
those of little faith.
God can be trusted.
My wife and I both had great faith in
God before we met. After we dated for almost a year we decided on
marriage and both agreed that God could be trusted in the control of births. We let Him decide on
the right number of children. A year after our marriage we had our
first child, and then about every 14-18 months. We ended with six
children, three boys and three girls. All are precious and very close
friends. They range in ages from 13 to 20. Because of our great
faith (a gift from God Himself) we have and are passing that faith onto our
children, and they are growing rapidly in faith.
After the sixth child (three C-sections, and three vaginal
deliveries), the doctor said that another pregnancy could cause a great danger
to my wife and the child. At that point, we felt it would be testing God
to continue on with that new information. So we agreed to the tubal
felt this was from the Lord.
We have seen that with each child, our income continued to rise
to meet the new expenses. And now that the older ones are reaching the
college age, it is amazing to see how God is meeting those needs.
By the way, we also knew a couple with the similar great faith,
and trusted God for birth control and had no children, which they accepted as God's perfect
plan for their lives (they may have adopted some--we
moved away from the area years ago).
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